This cycle in my life was perpetuated by my need to people-please. I didn't operate out of my true identity but instead changed and morphed, to adapt to what people around me needed, to make myself appear indispensable. This was out of a need to be accepted and to receive approval. Fear of rejection was like a relentless boomerang, piercing my already withered soul. It took no regard for my already broken state. Time, after time, after time I would set out to please and even in the moments of triumph the "high" would pass as quickly as it had appeared.
I remember living this experience over and over and over....till one day I realized some foundational truths about who I am;
1. I have the power to teach people how to treat me.
2. I have the power to draw healthy boundaries.
I also realized that some people were meant to be in my life for only a season while others a lifetime. When my belief about who I am changed the people in my life changed too.
"When my belief about who I am changed the people in my life changed too."
Rejection followed me around for years. The reality was that once it took root in my belief system about my own self, I was rejecting myself from the beginning. The statement, "you attract as healthy as you are" is so true, even though it is a difficult one to digest. Love who you are, because people are flawed and if we rely on them loving who we are to get our validation or worth then we will always end up hurt/disappointed. I spent years sabotaging my relationships with others and rejecting who I was before others had the opportunity to see/know how wonderful and beautiful God created me.
The lie: Your value is measured by how you/others view, or describe you.
The truth: You are unique, there is no one else in this world like you. You are a rare find, your value is set by your creator and He gave His life for you. You are loved beyond expression and comprehension.
What lie are you believing and how has it effected your life and relationships with others?
Post by Jessica Dromgoole
Jessica is a wife and mother. She is married to her childhood best friend and first love, Tommy. They have four children, Brayden (12), Noah & Celeste (11 year old twins), and Kyra (9). Jessica loves all creative arts. She is a writer, singer, photographer, graphics and web designer. She is a home-school mom, and is the owner of Life's Little Reflections.